Sueli Montilha, BACP, NCPS

Sueli Montilha is a psychotherapeutic counsellor who uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to help people with sexual wellbeing and relationship concerns. She draws on a bio-psychosocial framework to look at how body, mind and social context interact. Sueli aims to create a space where clients can talk about intimacy, sexual difficulties and relationship strain in straightforward terms.

She qualified with an Advanced Professional Diploma in Psychotherapeutic Counselling and holds a Certificate in Counselling Children from CPCAB. She also completed a Postgraduate Certificate in Low Intensity Psychological Interventions and an MSc in Contemporary Psychosexual Therapy with distinction. These qualifications shape how she works with sexual dysfunction and intimacy-related problems.

Sueli has six years of experience in the charity sector and the NHS. She has worked with children, young people and adults and has particular experience with complex trauma, including sexual trauma, and common mental health concerns such as anxiety and depression. She also supports people facing grief, parenting strain, career stress and compassion fatigue.

Her work is informed by multicultural experience and attention to diversity. She is GSRD aware and works respectfully with all genders, sexualities and relationship structures. Sueli pays attention to family of origin issues, attachment and adoption or fostering backgrounds when they are relevant to a person’s wellbeing.

In sessions she talks through problems plainly and looks for practical steps to reduce distress. She can help with intimacy concerns including erectile or ejaculatory difficulties, arousal and desire issues, painful intercourse and orgasm issues. To begin, clients are invited to complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule according to availability.

Approaches to sexual wellbeing and relationship work online

Her practice combines evidence-based approaches that address both sexual wellbeing and wider emotional needs. One strand draws on psychosexual therapy principles to explore desire, arousal and performance concerns in clear, step-by-step ways that look at thoughts, bodily responses and relationship patterns. This helps with issues such as erectile or ejaculatory difficulties, painful intercourse and orgasm concerns.

She also uses low-intensity psychological interventions to break down anxiety and mood problems into manageable steps. These techniques focus on simple behavioural changes, guided exercises and practical coping skills that reduce distress and restore functioning in daily life.

Finding the right approach is part of the therapeutic work. The therapist will discuss goals and preferences and together they will try methods that fit the person’s needs. This is a collaborative process and adjustments are made as new needs emerge.

If you are considering online therapy, please confirm the available session formats before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit appointments around work, family and travel commitments, and can reduce time spent commuting. It can also allow for shorter check-ins when needed or sessions without video when that better suits someone’s comfort or bandwidth.